Dating in your 30s may not have the same appeal as when you were in your 20s, but it can be so much better. Guys on Reddit weigh in on why they think to date as a 30-something is so much better than when you were in your 20s.
- The sex is better.
There are many different types of sex to have when you’re in your twenties. Some of these are going to be more successful than others, but by the time you hit 30, they’ve figured out what they like and didn’t like Jared shared: “Sex is a whole lot better since you as a guy know what you’re doing. So does she and crucially she isn’t as shy about saying so and taking the initiative.”
- Compatibility matters more than anything else.
Compatibility has to be so much more than liking the same things. According to Mike, he says, I care more about whether or not we have the same interests and goals in life. I’m looking for a partner in life nowadays, not just somebody to have sex with. For me personally, I want someone who takes risks, chases rewards, works extremely hard, learns something new every day, wants financial success and doesn’t want kids. In the past, all she needed to be was hot. My pool of available partners has shrunk considerably, but my happiness has increased.
- All games and rules are thrown out the window.
You know how dating usually comes with a bunch of rules that we are expected to play by? Well, once you hit 30, you can wave goodbye to those games because as Bob says: “People over 30 tend not to play as many games. By that point in life, most people know better what they want and how to go about getting it.”
- Independence is much more important and makes it easier to decide if the relationship is going anywhere.
If you’re single and dating in your thirties, you’ve to spend much more time navigating this tricky world. This means you have better ideas of your goals and what you want. Nadrik posted on Reddit that “Women in their 30s also tend to know what they want. They have their own interests, friends, hobbies, and aren’t nearly as likely to just cling to you and rely on you for their own social life. It’s incredibly refreshing.”
- Communication is much stronger than ever.
Along with that ever so precious independence, people in their 30s are a lot bolder and are more likely to actually ask for whatever it is that they want. Like sdtp wrote on Reddit: “I’ve learned just to say what I want and attempt to grab it by the figurative balls.”